Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you are aware of this incredibly sensationalized and fairly recent phenomenon: Teachers with porn star pasts!
I’ve had conversations about this with a few people and it usually goes, ‘That’s not an intelligent choice. What did they think would happen when people found out?’ At first, it seems an illogical choice to teach children knowing that a porn past–whether one scene or many–can become highly publicized; much to the detriment of one’s current career. But I’m not so sure it’s really that illogical.
Sex workers are natural teachers. A good, attentive sex worker is highly communicative, expressive and caring. There are always a few unremarkable people in every line of work, but I’ve known my fair share of sex workers and they are typically the embodiment of childlike kindness, sympathy, intuition, and are usually easy with a quick tip for any number of sex-related concerns/issues/problems, etc.
So many angry, sad porn obsessors spend an exorbitant amount of time trying to sell us on ‘poor sex workers’ as victims with no future after one scene in the adult industry. I think the common sense solution is to create jobs for our sex workers as educators. There is not enough sex education in our country and plenty of ill-informed people. Porn’s final product is not supposed to be education, but there’s no reason we can’t employ actual sex workers to aid in the realities of sex and expand the conversation to include important pre- and post-sex forms of communication. Actual penetration can, at times, be the least complicated part of the overall process.
A sex scene should begin before the camera rolls with an exchange about what each person likes and doesn’t like. Verbal communication is important. The more complicated the sex, the more verbal communication is required. This is common sense, but so many young people don’t get details like this in the form of straightforward, practical information. There is no reason sex has to be such a bizarrely secretive thing. It’s more dangerous for young people to not know basic information about sex than to know. When you are informed, you make informed decisions.
Like it or not, sex workers are a well of information, and not just about what’s healthy, but also what’s not healthy. Real, cautionary tales are valuable. A memoir and biography is just not long enough to cover the complexities of sex work. The information is limitless in its emotional, physical, mental and social layers. I can have a completely different and extensive conversation with anyone at any point in time based on my almost twenty years experience in and around the sex industry. Sex workers can peel back the illusive layers of sexuality and help us feel more natural and human about what should be a beautiful communication process. There should be no shame in knowing our biological selves and finding a mature way of expressing and celebrating it with other consenting adults. Talking to young people at the moment they start asking questions doesn’t mean encouraging them to have sex before they’re an adult, and I’m not talking about classes that offer actual sex performance. If pornography is really such a problem because it’s being used as instruction, why not use that as a cue to create more actual education? There are plenty of thoughtful sex workers who would be more than happy to talk at length about their experiences without talking down to their audience or apologizing for all they know.
That is my progressive thought for the day. An actual progressive thought.
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